It is a life

1. People are consistent. If the person cheats on others, they will cheat on you. If somebody gossips to you, they will gossip about you. If you have a good friend, no matter what happens they are likely to stay with you.

2. Work to live, not the other way around. If all you do is work, you are either a great artist who's driven by passion, or a stupid person who robs himself or herself of many pleasures of life. Life can be more fun then just work and money. It is new stuff that matters: emotions, relationships, experiences. Even money is only as good, as the number of emotions it can buy.

3. Don't try to motivate everyone. A crazy motive, right? There are people who are lazy. There are people who are different. Do not waste yourself on them. There are others you can help. If you want everyone to like you, you are easy to manipulate. Choose the right people and be rewarded with the right attitude

.4. You'll always be you, no matter what you do. Pretending is fine in the short term. But in the end its best to find the person who will think that the sun shines out of your ass and loves you for what you are.

5. 80% of things you do does not matter much. It is 20% that matters. Each day we waste more than 19 hours of time. At most, you'll have 4-5 hours to do something meaningful, important, and useful. Make sure you do it. Every day

Seven Tips to Personal Effectiveness

1. Understanding what is important The shortest path to personal effectiveness has to lie through understanding what is important for you. People try to do stuff they believe is important. Believing and knowing your priorities may not be enough to succeed, but that is definitely a starting point.

2. Setting goals We are bombarded with impulses: there are tons of unimportant things we fall for doing. Watching TV is the one biggest time consumer for many people.
However, if you know what is important for you, you can prioritize and you can set goals. The best goals are SMART: specific, measurable, attainable, relevant and time-bound.

3. Managing time There is one resource that we cannot save. It is time. Managing time is probably not the best way to put it. We cannot manage time as it simply happens to us. What we can do, however, is manage our activities. To be effective, we need to give time to achieving our goals and less time to routine. Managing time is connected with the first two points: get the priorities and the goals right, and allocate time to pursue them.

4. Managing money The best thing about money is that you can save it. You can accumulate it. You can use it to help you achieve your goals. Not having enough money is bad. Impulse spending is the real evil. If you watch and plan your expenses, you will be a happier person in the end. Saving for the contingencies & important things is the way to go.

5. Managing emotions & stress Our happiness in many cases depends on our relations with other people. Relationships are easier to build if you are open, sincere and helpful. Leading a social life has been shown to give fairly positive results. Give it a try

6. Managing Health Good life has to be long. To make sure we have enough time to reach our goals, we have to stay healthy. It means good dieting, regular medical examinations and physical activities.

7. Hard work Personal effectiveness means nothing if it is not used. To achieve results, we have to work and work a lot. The hard work should be also smart work: it makes sense to focus on the most important goals and priorities and achieve success there. Spreading thin is stupid & ineffective. Going too narrow will make us overspecialized and less prepared to change. Hence, the balance has to be found somewhere.

Failure wants to be your friend

Most people seem to have an innate fear of failure, but failure is really your best friend. People who succeed also fail a great deal because they make a lot of attempts. Those who have the most successes also have the most failures. There is nothing wrong or shameful in failing. The only regret lies in never making the attempt. So don't be afraid to experiment in your attempts to increase productivity.

Sometimes the quickest way to find out if something will work is to jump right in and do it. You can always make adjustments along the way. It's the ready-fire-aim approach, and surprisingly, it works a lot better than the more common ready-aim-fire approach. The reason is that after you've "fired" once, you have some actual data with which to adjust your aim. Too many people get bogged down in planning and thinking and never get to the point of action. How many potentially great ideas have you passed up because you got stuck in the state of analysis paralysis (i.e. ready-aim-aim-aim-aim-aim...)?

Understand that failure is not the opposite of success. Failure is an essential part of success. Once you succeed, no one will remember your failures anyway. We have electric light bulbs because Thomas Edison refused to give up even after 10,000 failed experiments. If the word "failure" is anathema to you, then reframe it: You either succeed, or you have a learning experience.

Letting go of the fear of failure will serve you well. If you're excited about achieving a particular goal, but you're afraid you might not be able to pull it off, jump on it and do it anyway. Even if you fail in your attempt, you'll learn something valuable and can make a better attempt next time. If you look at people who are successful in business today, you will commonly see that many of them had a string of dismal failures before finally hitting on something that worked. And I think most of these people will agree that those early failure experiences were an essential contributing factor in their future successes.

My advice to anyone starting a new business is to begin pumping out products or devising services and don't worry much about whether they'll be hits. They probably won't be. But you'll learn a lot more by doing than you ever will by thinking.

Holidays No Studies!

When the long-awaited summer holidays finally appear, those who are no longer children experience the flood of memories of days gone by...........I remember how as a student i would eagerly wait for this time of the year. Holidays were fun...just relaxing, reading a book or two, watching movies, meeting friends but more importantly no studies!

I always loved the fact that school never took place during that season. Since there was no school that meant that I had about two months of free time... I wouldn't have to wake up early every morning to go to school. No home -work and no time tables.

While vacations provide a platform to children to learn many new things , Holidays are those rare instances where families can utilize the opportunity to bond and spend quality time..

So enjoy and have a great holiday!

I hear I see I do

Our Brain can remember everything and interpret them well, more than a computer s. Its working nature seems to be a mystery, i.e., it is tough to forget the thing one wishes to forget, and it is difficult to remember the thing one wishes to remember. Alarms and schedulers can ease one in this condition. Anyhow, for all learners, the brain's cooperation is very much essential. When one gets tensed or is fearful, one can often go blank as if the condition / situation / circumstance had formatted their brain.

"Knowledge is power". To attain that, children are now pressurised to journey with studies and schooling for gaining it. Parents just ride roughshod on their children to reach their aims or goals. Many times many parents make their children tense and nervous about exams. Of course, fear (within limits) is good, since it may draw more attention and care. But they should understand that for good, efficient learning and perfection in presentation, good parenting with encouragement, good teachers, good institution, (of course, good student), etc., are very essential.

March will be a dreaded season or a tension period for children (more for parents too) due to exam fear. Parents will sacrifice TV, outings, tours, sleep, etc., for the sake of their children's studies. In spite of it all, if they find that their children could not cope with the situation and lose their concentration, they will often become frustrated, irritated and worried. Also, parents would often complain that their children are studying well but not scoring well. At this juncture, they need to encourage their children than blaming them and should go for analysis of the cause to rectify / treat it.
One's incompetence and ignorance usually debar them from their activities unless good luck plays a major role. So, taking this issue for business, nowadays lots and lots of products, including health drinks, come into the market, claiming that they can make the brain work to develop IQ (intelligence quotient). Actually speaking, it is difficult to prove the gain of IQ, since it needs not only brain boosters but also one's interest in learning, ability, tendency to concentrate, good teaching, favourable circumstances, etc. Here brain needs more exercises than just a brain booster - Learning and recalling – just like contraction and relaxation of muscles as we do for our physique. Squeezing the brain during childhood is good for one's life in future. Here one needs to remember the old proverb

I hear – I forget

I see – I remember

I do – I understand and will never forget

Good Listening In Class

The classroom is the place to learn, and the classroom is the place to listen." -William H. Armstrong

Listening is one of the most important skills you can develop to do better Form a good habit - good listening in class! Concentrate on what is going on in class - do not day dream. You cannot listen if you are talking!

Before class - think about what the class is going to be about What were the main points covered in the last class? Review what your assignment was for the class

During class-relate what you have already learned to what is being taught Did your homework have anything to do with the subject being taught during this class?
Did your reading have anything to do with the subject?
Does your general knowledge provide any information about the subject being taught?
What comes to mind during the instruction?
Concentrate on the subject being taught.
Take notes on the main points.

After class, review your notes and think about what was covered in class.
Some people like to rewrite their notes.
Some people like to underline and highlight important ideas and vocabulary. you can usually listen better if you are in the front.

Learning to listen - more details Good listening means you are paying attention. Try to hear what is said, not what you want to hear. Think "around" the topic and "between the lines." Relate it to what you already know.
What is the main point?
What is likely to be on the test?
What is the teacher going to say next?
Listen carefully to what the teacher says about an assignment and write it down in your assignment notebook right away.

To listen you must be thinking. Listening is an active, not passive activity.

Playing to Learn

Despite the hopeless situation of my chess playing last night, it didn't cause me distress because I knew I was playing to learn. So in that sense I was guaranteed victory simply by doing my best, regardless of how badly outmatched I was.

The only way to win consistently at life is to regard every situation as a learning experience. That's the only outcome you can really guarantee. If you make that your primary aim, losing becomes impossible.
Even though a game of chess might seem an unfair comparison to a foreclosure, it's the same principle at work. A bigger sting just delivers a more valuable lesson. Not every piece you lose will be a mere pawn.